Please Read the First Masterlist Before Continuing
This masterlist is a continuation of the first one, if you have not read the first please go back and read it before reading this one. The first one answers more of the frequent questions, where as this is simply giving deeper education on the topic of hypersexuality which you may have other questions which are already answered in the first, so I highly advise you go back if you have not.
Hypersexuality in Relationships
The most important thing about sustaining a healthy relationship while hypersexual is to make sure you communicate! As cheesy as it sounds, communication is key! Make sure your partner is aware you are hypersexual, and how it works for you (since hypersexuality feels/looks different from person to person, it always varies.) It is also important to make sure that you both agree on a healthy way of helping you while maintaining any boundaries that were already set in place (if done so.) If not, now would be a great time to establish what is comfortable, and what isn’t!If the worst would come to happen, and you can not agree on boundaries or if your partner can’t accept you, I really advise you to either take some time away for yourself if you do not want to break up. It can be emotionally draining and harmful for yourself if you force yourself to do something you can not do. Please know that it is okay to be hurt and feel pain, we all do. Just please be safe if this were to happen, and please have someone to talk to during this situation.
Hypersexuality in the LGBTQ+
Being part of the LGBTQ+ community can take a toll on you when also hypersexual. There is already a stigma where the LGBTQ+ is “twisting” people’s minds with sexuality, so a large amount of people feel forced to suppress it. One way that this can turn out is hypersexuality.
Aroace spectrum: Being hypersexual and part of the aroace spectrum can be a very conflicting experience, as your attraction and impulses do not necessarily match up. This can be very confusing, as it leads us to question the validity of our identity.
Other queer identities: Being hypersexual as a queer person in general also has its difficulties. We are once again led to question the validity of our identities due to our impulses, which are often uncontrollable.
I’m not Hypersexual but I want to help someone who is, how do i help?
The most important thing is to be patient and understanding. Know that the other party does not intend to harm you or make you uncomfortable, but if they do, SPEAK UP! It will benefit the both of you. It's okay to set boundaries, so make sure to have open and honest communication with them.
Educate yourself; as with any marginalized group, hypersexual people are not obligated to be your source of education. Take some time out of your day to research hypersexuality for yourself, and encourage others to as well.